Thirty is Not Old

Have you ever noticed that a lot of women tend to take on an air of desperation on the dating scene once they hit 30? They moan about missed opportunities, brood over failed relationships, or they do the ultimate worst, they play out fatalistic scenarios of their lives if they don't manage to find someone *soon*. It sure is fun being around women who are in this state. Not!

Admittedly, it is easier to find a boyfriend or future life partner when one is in their twenties (as I happily did then to my chagrin today) than when one is in their thirties. So I can appreciate the urgency single women in their thirties feel to find a suitable life partner. Afterall, most women desire children, and once they hit thirty, they suddenly hear the biological clock ticking all the more acutely. But what I don't understand is the sudden acceptance now of what they could never in their twenties. It is as though entering the big 30 deems them unworthy of having any normal standards.

Case in point. One of my friends recently met a man through a matrimonial website. They corresponded for awhile, and then made plans to meet. At that meeting, the man told my friend that he had to view her without clothes so as to see if there was a "fit". He said he would not be willing to proceed with someone he was not comfortable with. This was on their FIRST meeting! Hello? Which planet did this moron come from? My friend said she felt she was being interviewed for a job, which suddenly did not seem all that attractive anymore. Luckily, she escaped that scene with her dignity intact.

But how in the world did she, an educated and decent looking woman, get into that situation in the first place? Now this horror story is just one example of many I have heard in the recent past. I have come to the conclusion that part of the reason why this happens is because women decide to believe that they are no longer worthy to demand what they desire by virtue of having aged an additional year. This attitude leaves them open to abuse by accepting the rubbish behaviour from men (who btw know all about the desperate thirty-something woman syndrome and wickedly play on it) in the hopes of finding anyone.

That is the crux of the problem - they will accept anyone. It's no longer the special somebody they are hoping for. So all the anyones come-a-rushing in. So why be surprised when you attract the wrong crowd? Who's really to blame?

My friends, can you not have a little more self-respect?

Maybe then you will get what you truly deserve.